Stop Fighting The Same Battles Over Again

Many individuals continue to bring up old events and occurrences, to defend present points of view, and actions. Not only is that unproductive, but it is also unhealthy and unwise. Individuals who take this course of action constantly rehash old "stuff," and seem to be constantly "re-fighting old battles." These individuals should learn and understand that one's perception of events is generally not the same as someone else's, and that circumstances, situations, and people change and adapt constantly. Often the event occurred because of a differing point of view or perspective, and that one's opinion of another might also change over time.

Especially with people under twenty-five, old memories of someone or something else could have been greatly impacted by exceptional circumstances that either party experienced at that point in time. Often, one individual "matures" sooner than another, or one's tolerance of a particular behavior might change over time. It is also possible that one or both individuals might have changed over the course of time. If that were not the fact, we would all have many of the same friends throughout our lives, yet most of us do not.

The high percentage of divorces is another evidence of how circumstances and perspectives change over time. People grow apart, points of views change, and many individuals are far less than tolerant about changes

It is important that people learn the importance of "letting it go." It is not constructive to permit things, events, or people continue to impact and bother you. Rather than taking satisfaction from 'holding a grudge," and begrudging others imperfections, and what you perceive as improprieties, or what many of today's generation refer to as a "Dis," it is far more constructive to "move on." One need not once again become friends with the other individual, but continuous anger is often an unhealthy situation. It is far better to merely accept that most people have imperfections, and one will rarely like everything someone else says, or does, so just "let it go." The concept of a "Dis," which is short for disrespect or disrespectful behavior or action, is often far more perception related than actual.

My best advice is simply strive to be the best individual you can be, and to concern yourself less with other's behavior, which are beyond your control. This is often a difficult thing to do, but is almost always healthier for you, and for getting anything accomplished, than "harping" on the past. There is no magic formula for regaining peace and calm from a stressful situation, but "moving on" is generally the best course of action.

Too many people worry about being friends or being liked. It is my belief that the only one that you truly have any control over, in the long run and the big picture, is you. Try it, and you will notice that it is a workable, more relaxing and productive course of action.