Are Your Goals & Dreams, YOUR GOALS & DREAMS?

You can't be true to yourself by trying to live someone else's dreams, or have someone else's goals! How much time and effort do you spend on you? What is really important to you, and why? Don't immediately respond in generalities, but rather make those goals and dreams specific, essential, personal and truly meaningful! What does success mean to you, and why? What are you committed to do in order to achieve to your potential? Unless your goals and dreams are personally meaningful, they will not inspire you or motivate you to persevere, persist and focus on your needs? Do you really believe in your goals, and how would achieving them serve to make your life better, more meaningful, or create a significant and essential difference? In any endeavor, in any business setting, one must seek his own personal Nirvana? For example, every professional Real Estate Agent, must make his or her own decisions as to his code of ethics, priorities, and how to best serve his customers and clients. There is no one - size - fits - all approach, to what is most important and relevant to others. One must understand that goals and dreams only make a real difference when an individual feels strongly and deeply about them, and creates them personally, rather than merely adopting someone else's goals/ dreams and/ or priorities.
 
1. In the past three plus decades, I have presented personal development/ self growth seminars to thousands of individuals. One of the essential steps in evolving to create the best you, is to create and use affirmations in an impactful and personally meaningful manner. However, unless one is willing to personalize these affirmations, they do not accomplish what they will if they are personal in nature! This means that there is no place for generalities, popularity concerns. or cliches in developing one's affirmations. It is always more effective when each of our personal ten affirmations are indeed personal, as well as specific in nature! What is an affirmation? At their best, they are stated only in the present tense and are in every day areas that we feel we can be better in, or do better at! For example, if one realizes he needs to lose weight, instead of saying, "I want to lose weight," or even "I will lose weight," the impactful way must be stated in the present, for example, by saying, "I live each day in a healthy manner, carefully selecting what I eat, and enjoy how it makes me look and feel."

2. Far too often, we resort to cliche or "safe" goals and dreams. These are almost always far too general in nature, and do not end up providing the needed call to action that personal dreams lead us to. Some cliche/ generalized dreams/ goals include: making more money (or even using a specific dollar amount); winning a race/ contest/ endeavor; selling more; being happy, etc. Corresponding and preferred personalized dreams would rather be: affording a four bedroom, three bath home in a specific location; creating value for others by achieving what needs to be done, and not merely accepting the status quo; becoming a better salesperson, learning the best techniques, and using them so I can achieve my personal goals; carefully defining what happiness means to you!

Make your affirmations personal and specific. Create a personal Affirmation List, include ten specific items, and read them to yourself, in a private setting, at least three times each and every day. When our dreams and goals align precisely with your affirmations in a personally meaningful manner, then they will motivate you to be the best you can be!