Stop Being Your Own Worst Enemy!

Are you often your own worst enemy? Do you tend to either blame others for your perceived problems, fail to fully and properly analyze needs, or insufficiently or inadequately plan, or tend to avoid to take meaningful, timely action? Is your self-belief such that your first thought is often doubt rather than confidence? Do you spend inordinate amounts of time on useless activities such as worrying or thinking of why you are going to fail? Do the words that come out of your mouth quickly develop a negative attitude that pervades every aspect of your existence, and contributes to a lack of self-confidence that nearly debilitates you? While many of us do not even think about these things, an objective observation of your behavior often indicates weaknesses that often cause you to end up being your own worst enemy. Those involved in sales, financial advice, real estate marketing, etc., must avoid the tendency to blame their perceived competition, conditions, because they are far better served, and more effective, when their primary focus and attention, is paid on how to be better personally, and achieve to the best of their potential, etc.

1. Self-doubts often pervade our behavior and brings on an overriding avoidance of needed self-beliefs and self-confidence. Our inner strength is derived from whether we believe in our personal value and values. Without those traits, we lead ourselves down the road that leads to a paralysis of analysis, where we prioritize avoiding conflict, action, issues, or anything that may challenge us, and develop an affinity for over-reliance on the easy and mundane, which permits us to hide inside a rather limiting comfort zone.

2. How much time a day to you spend worrying or concentrating about what might be uncomfortable, challenging, or may go in an alternative direction? When we wallow in our worries and dwell on self-pity, we diminish out potential for personal growth or improvement. Too many are so fearful of doing something wrong that they choose to do nothing at all, and then wonder why they did not achieve what they claimed they hoped for. It is important to consider if this non-productive behavior is because of some fear of failure, or is it rather a fear of success. Many individuals subconsciously fear success or good results, because they want to keep expectations low, so that they will not fail and disappoint in the future. When we read this it often seems nearly absurd, yet we witness this regularly in an overwhelming number of conditions and situations.

3. Are your words holding you back, and creating a less than optimal destiny? Is your initial reaction to challenges to revert to words such as can't, don't, impossible, problem, etc? Or, do you view obstacles as challenges that need to be overcome, and focus on transforming them to ways to get things accomplished, in a positive, proactive and positive manner.

You can either be your own best friend, or your worst enemy? It's always up to you!