How often have you met someone, and even had a brief conversation
with them, only to moments later seem to completely forget that
person's name? Besides the probability of your feeling uncomfortable and
even perhaps foolish, how do you think it would make the other person
feel? Or, perhaps you meet someone in some social or business setting,
only to see them in another setting, realize that you recognize them,
but have difficulty retrieving their name from your memory bank? Dale
Carnegie famously stated that the sweetest sound to someone's ear is the
sound of their own name. He asserted that a great way to enhance your
ability to both "win friends and influence people" was by remembering
something that should seem relatively basic yet many of us find quite
challenging - merely remembering a name! While some memory experts are
able to remember large amounts of names, numbers, and other information,
each of us can strive to utilize more effectively some or their
techniques to assist us in remembering names, These steps include: 1.
Focusing on the individual you meet thoroughly and with as few
distractions as you can muster; 2. Repeating the individual's name
numerous times (at least 5) in your brief introductory conversation; 3.
Listening effectively to the individual in order to better associate
their back - story to their face to their name. What could be more effective for a real estate professional, or financial adviser, than to be able to perfect his elevator speech, and make a magic connection with others, whenever he met them, and assuring he is remembered in a positive manner?
1. When you first meet someone, try to clear you mind, at least temporarily from some of our many distractions such as other things going on in our own lives. focus on what that person looks like, any distinguishing characteristics,such as eyes, cheeks, hairline, skin, etc. Then try to associate their name with one of their distinguishing characteristics. Perhaps the most essential component is to remember that learning and remembering someone else's name is primarily about, at least for the moment, putting that person first in your mind, and remembering that it's not always, all about you!
2. When you first meet, look directly at that person. Make certain that you clearly hear the person's name. If there is anything unusual or unique about the name, ask for a better explanation so you can hear the name again. During this preliminary conversation, repeat the name at least five times, as you engage in conversation. First listening attentively and then creating a reference, combined with repetition, puts you well on your way towards remembering that person's name.
3. Combine the name, features, and what you have learned and make a mental note, so that you will better remember them. Memory professionals/ experts will tell you to create some sort of mind or memory file, where you associate the individual with some familiar possession, such as a piece of furniture, etc. Whatever helps you personally increase your ability to remember people more effectively, will invariably serve you well.
Obviously, like many other things, this is both a discipline, something you must want or need to do, and a technique you must practice in order to master and thus use effectively. However, studies indicate that most people are more attracted to, and more easily bond to those they feel care about them, and remembering and using their name, is a powerful step in that direction.
1. When you first meet someone, try to clear you mind, at least temporarily from some of our many distractions such as other things going on in our own lives. focus on what that person looks like, any distinguishing characteristics,such as eyes, cheeks, hairline, skin, etc. Then try to associate their name with one of their distinguishing characteristics. Perhaps the most essential component is to remember that learning and remembering someone else's name is primarily about, at least for the moment, putting that person first in your mind, and remembering that it's not always, all about you!
2. When you first meet, look directly at that person. Make certain that you clearly hear the person's name. If there is anything unusual or unique about the name, ask for a better explanation so you can hear the name again. During this preliminary conversation, repeat the name at least five times, as you engage in conversation. First listening attentively and then creating a reference, combined with repetition, puts you well on your way towards remembering that person's name.
3. Combine the name, features, and what you have learned and make a mental note, so that you will better remember them. Memory professionals/ experts will tell you to create some sort of mind or memory file, where you associate the individual with some familiar possession, such as a piece of furniture, etc. Whatever helps you personally increase your ability to remember people more effectively, will invariably serve you well.
Obviously, like many other things, this is both a discipline, something you must want or need to do, and a technique you must practice in order to master and thus use effectively. However, studies indicate that most people are more attracted to, and more easily bond to those they feel care about them, and remembering and using their name, is a powerful step in that direction.
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